Breaking Up With Binge Eating

Why The MORE Method Works to End Binge and Emotional Eating

May 27, 2020 Georgie Fear and Maryclaire Brescia
Breaking Up With Binge Eating
Why The MORE Method Works to End Binge and Emotional Eating
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Breaking Up With Binge Eating
Why The MORE Method Works to End Binge and Emotional Eating
May 27, 2020
Georgie Fear and Maryclaire Brescia

You've tried to improve your health by eating less. Sitting less. Getting less upset, and being less emotional. You wonder if you can make fewer excuses or be less lazy. Or if a new workout you hate would help get rid of more calories. 

But if it hasn't worked - I'd like you to try MORE. The pervasive problem is not overindulgence but that we are too skimpy with meeting our own needs!  Millions of women's food problems are manifestations of not having enough in other areas of our lives. And those eating problems quiet when we refill our shortages to abundance. In this episode, I'll reveal 6 areas that I'd like you to consider. If your needs are being less than 100% met in any or all of the areas - let's do something about it! You deserve MORE. 

Sink your teeth into my exciting new book, Give Yourself MORE:
https://www.otpbooks.com/product/give-yourself-more/

Show Notes Transcript

You've tried to improve your health by eating less. Sitting less. Getting less upset, and being less emotional. You wonder if you can make fewer excuses or be less lazy. Or if a new workout you hate would help get rid of more calories. 

But if it hasn't worked - I'd like you to try MORE. The pervasive problem is not overindulgence but that we are too skimpy with meeting our own needs!  Millions of women's food problems are manifestations of not having enough in other areas of our lives. And those eating problems quiet when we refill our shortages to abundance. In this episode, I'll reveal 6 areas that I'd like you to consider. If your needs are being less than 100% met in any or all of the areas - let's do something about it! You deserve MORE. 

Sink your teeth into my exciting new book, Give Yourself MORE:
https://www.otpbooks.com/product/give-yourself-more/

“I’m beginning to think this is about more than food”, Norah said. Yes, I need to eat enough in my meals to prevent binge eating or attacking the ice cream when I’m mad, but that alone wouldn’t have done it. I’m feeling like for the first time, I can see myself actually stepping away from bingeing and eating compulsively - actually believing it's possible. I’ve fixated on food for more than 15 years - trying high carb, low carb, plant based,no sugar or flour, eat everything… but just kept going round and round - food was always still an issue. What’s changed in the last 2 months is that I’m doing all this other stuff. Pushing harder to get myself enough sleep. Keeping tabs on my brain and stress levels during the work day. Trying to purposely include joy in my days (which I’ll admit has been hard stuck in my apartment all the time!) Something about this combination of factors feels like it has fundamentally changed me - and I think I’m actually curing whatever was causing all these food problems. Just wanted to share. Thank you so much - Norah. 

I wanted to read Norah’s email again, so I did. And then, I read it a third time. I kept it in my inbox for a while and read it a few more times, and it brought a smile to my face everytime my eyes ran over those words. She sounded so ... hopeful. 

Having hope is precious, it’s warm and buoyant and makes us want to stay in the game, keep trying  and see what happens next. Lots of people who reach out to me feel like they have lost their hope, at least for the moment, like a misplaced set of car keys. Their emails sound like the things I think when I lose my keys. Have you seen my hope? Is it in your pocket by chance? If you were my hope, where would you be? Where is the last place I can recall having my hope? 

In this episode I’ll share some more about why you listening can have the exact same experience Norah did. You can have hope and excitement about leaving binge eating and emotional eating behind you - I’ll show you exactly 6 places to look. 

(Intro) 

As Norah explained, she had been looking in the same place over and over for the cure to her binge eating disorder. She kept looking at food. This is similar to what I always do when I can't find my keys. I look on the hook by the door. This is the place I expect them to be. 

Norah thought that food-centered problems must have a food-centered solution. And gotta love her persistence, she literally did every diet and food restriction type I can think of. (And I’m a dietitian, I’ve heard of all the food restriction schemes!) But none of them fixed the issue.

When I met Norah I saw in her a perfect candidate for what I call the more method. Like many of the people I work with, she needed to eat more in her planned meals to remove the urge to binge that came from calorie restriction. But that was just one piece where she needed more. All the food in the world wouldn’t have filled up the other areas where she was having too little.

These are the area I’m referring to: 1. Body love. She was so critical of her looks. She didn’t seem to notice that her body functioned really well, she was sharply critical of her appearance and her worth based on her appearance.

2. Exercise: Norah ran on a regular basis, but when she talked about running it was always in the context of “having to run” and burning calories. I knew that her physical activity could be so much more: it could be a stress reliever, it could be “clear her mind” time, a way to celebrate lungs and legs which were strong, a way to see the city and hear the birds sing with no one interrupting her. 

3. Emotions - Norah was full of emotions, and she was a big fan of journaling. She said it really helped her.. when she did it. I suspected, and it turned out to be true, that while Norah did open up to her journal - she wasn’t opening up to the people in her life. She was still bottling her emotions and opinions, determined not to upset or inconvenience anyone else. And while the journaling was a start, I knew that emotionally, she could give herself so much more freedom, and learn more skills to manage her feelings so they didn’t drive her into eating compulsively. 

4. Food. As we touched on, eating enough overall is the first step in breaking up with binge eating. But MORE here also includes eating all the things you enjoy, not putting sugar or flour or animal products off limits. And it includes more freedom and permission to enjoy them without guilt and shame. Food can be so much more than just fuel, it can be delicious and pleasing.

Speaking of things which are pleasing - the 5th area where many people can give themselves MORE is pleasure. Joy. Fun. Laughter. Recreation. I can’t tell you how many people’s food problems have been solved where part of the solution was a deliberate inclusion of more fun, joyful things in the person’s daily life.

And the 6th place in which I see women need to give themselves more: rest. If we try to be supermom, and career woman, and train like an athlete, and change the world with our volunteer work, that all comes with a heavy responsibility to also rest and recharge. Our bodies and brains need time to stop exerting energy and doing work, they need to reset with sleep, and taking breaks from the screen. Our minds and bodies need to idle or stay in one place sometimes without us cracking the whip driving them to produce produce produce! Norah accomplished an amazing array of work on a daily basis - she was successful in her career, was very involved her two kids, had creative writing projects underway, and was sticking to a pretty intense fitness program. But it didn’t leave time to ever recharge her batteries, and often when she felt like her brain and body were just empty and listless, she’d fall into a bigne, consuming 5 or 10 energy bars after dinner, a zombie who couldn’t think anymore, who just wanted to fill up that void.

I hope that you, dear listener, consider these areas of moreness really seriously. Solving your food issues, whatever form they take - binge eating, emotional eating, compulsive eating, or just an uncomfortable fixation of food and your weight might be solved by giving yourself MORE. Flipping the script in our minds isn’t easy - we’ve gotten so conditioned to aim for less. We think cut out the sugar, cut out the wine, shrink my belly and reduce the fat on my legs. Be less needy, less emotional, less lazy, less less less. I want you try MORE. More energy, more fun, more openness, more rest, more fulfillment, more joy, more love.

My new book Give Yourself More, is launching this week. It’s available on Amazon, kindle, and soon on audible as well. My co author Aleisha and I did the narration for the audiobook, so you’ll actually get to hear our voices reading our work instead of some hired narrator. I think it’s more genuine that way.

You can also pick up Give Yourself More from on target publications, and I’ll put a link in the show description. https://www.otpbooks.com/product/give-yourself-more/

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the book, and always appreciate a review of this show if you have a moment to let other people know what you think. Drop a line through the contact form at georgiefear.com if you have something to share or an idea for something you’d like discussed on breaking up with binge eating.